Let's take steps to banish some of the most common negative thoughts many of us repeat to ourselves. Being in a negative space is harmful to our overall well-being, because what you dwell on can easily become self fulfilling if you don't change your mindset.
讓我們一起行動起來，消滅那些我們經常告訴自己的消極想法吧!如果你不改變想法，而是一味地沉浸在消極的念頭中，那么，我們的整個身心就會受到影響，因為“噩夢”也會成真。
1.I'm not good enough.
我不夠好。
This type of negative thought that can apply to many categories. Maybe you don't think you're a good enough mother or good at a sport. Even if you find yourself lacking in something, there's no need to keep repeating it to yourself. The human brain is an incredible thing. Be inspired by Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, Harvard-trained neuroscientist who suffered a stroke that left her unable to walk, read, write, talk, or remember her previous life. Dr. Taylor took eight years to recover and has since then written a best-selling book about her experience and appeared on Oprah. Keep on working toward something, and watch the leaps and bounds you'll make.
這種消極想法有很多類型。比如你認為自己不是個稱職的媽媽或不擅長運動。即使你真的發現了自己的弱點，也沒必要對自己不斷復述。人腦是神奇的。吉爾泰勒就是個激勵的好典型，她是哈佛大學的神經系統學專家，中風后她就失去了行走、閱讀、書寫、交談的能力了，甚至還失憶了。她花了八年的時間復原，用自己的經歷寫了暢銷書，還上了奧普拉的節目。堅持做一件事，親眼見證自己的變化。
2.No one cares about me.
沒人關心我。
To accurately say that your family and friends don't care about you would be a very rare situation. Maybe you're being too negative and overlooking the gestures of love they show you. They don't even have to be big gestures, but it's the little things they do for you that count. And people may be reacting to the energy you're putting out; perhaps you think they don't care about you so you don't make any effort in your relationships. Start showing people you care, so they can show you back in kind. And if you don't have good relationships with the people you know, what's stopping you from making new friends?
家人朋友都不關心你，這種情況其實不太常見。可能你過于消極的想法使你忽略了他們對你表達的愛。他們甚至并不需要為你做什么驚天動地的大事，正是一些小事才真正打動人心�；蛘吣阌X得沒人關心你，所以無需再經營人際關系，但其實也許人們只有在感知到你的付出后，才會對你進行回報;關心別人，別人才會關心你。如果你和周圍人的關系處理不好，為何不結交些新朋友?
3.I really dislike this person.
我真的不喜歡這個人。
If you dislike a person in your work or personal life, focusing on her bad qualities is not going to make things better. You need to let go of your assumptions about her and know that she is human too, which means she makes mistakes. Either you move on and stop thinking and talking about her, or learn to approach her or think about her in a positive manner. Focus on her good qualities, and repeat them to yourself instead of honing in on the unpleasant things.
如果工作或生活中有你討厭的人，只關注她的缺點有害無益。你需要放下對她的所有成見，告訴自己她也是個人，也有犯錯的時候。要么就不再談論她和想著她，要么學著去接近她，或想想她好的一面。多想想她的優點，不要再專注于讓你不開心的事情。
4.Why is she better off?
為什么她比我好?
Comparing yourself to someone else is never productive or positive. There's always going to be someone who is younger, prettier, smarter, or richer than you. If you keep coveting what someone else has, then this may cause you to be resentful of them, which will open a whole other negative can of worms. Remember, what they don't have is your whole package. Be appreciative of what you have, because if you want to play the comparison game, remember that there are people who are also worse off than you are.
和別人比較永遠不是有效率和積極的表現。總有比你年輕，漂亮，聰明，富有的人。如果你始終關注別人擁有什么，會帶來你對他們的恨意，隨即帶來更多消極的想法。記住，你所擁有的也是他們所沒有的。珍惜你所擁有的東西，如果真的想和別人比較，也別忘了總有比你差的人。
5.I'll never reach my goal.
我永遠無法達到目標。
If you think you're not going to be able "get there," think again. There are many people who are worse off and have overcome bigger obstacles than what you are facing. Take, for example, Olympic sprinter Oscar Pistorius, an amputee who overcame his handicap to compete in the Olympics against his able-bodied peers. Everything is within your reach as long as you work hard and have a a positive attitude.
如果你認為自己達不到，再想想。比你差的人比比皆是，他們遇到的困難也比你的更大。比如，奧運會短跑選手刀鋒戰士奧斯卡·皮斯托利斯，一個被截肢的運動員，戰勝了自己的阻礙，在其他健壯的對手中脫穎而出贏得了奧運會的冠軍。只要你努力付出，有著積極的信念，任何事都能夠做到。